The Old Coot is anti-modern speechmaking. January 11, 2023

 The Old Coot isn’t a fan of modern speech making.

By Merlin Lessler

 The two worst inventions of the 20^th century were: the teleprompter and the power point computer program. The teleprompter is used (most often) by people who don’t really know what they are talking about. It makes them appear knowledgeable, articulate and smarter than the rest of us. They stare at a point just above the camera, or over the heads of an audience. Every so often they stumble over a sentence in the prompter, not sure what it means and have a hard time getting back on track. It proves they don’t know the subject matter, or haven’t taken the time to rehearse. The presentation is fluff! Proof of that becomes evident when they open the floor to questions.  Typical responses include: “I can’t get into that now.” – “That violates the privacy laws.” – “That’s protected by the secrecy regulations.” And when it gets a little too sticky, you get, “That’s all we have time for today.”

 Politicians and news anchors are guilty of using teleprompters and not knowing what they are talking about, but corporate executives do it as well.  What you often get is a committee crafted speech that’s been sanitized by a legal team and polished up by a public relations crew. Once in a blue moon you get surprised, and find out the speaker really does know the ins & outs of the subject matter.     

 Power point presentations are another animal altogether. Presenters DO know what they are talking about.  -IN DETAIL! - TOO MUCH DETAIL! -My issue with these speeches comes when the screen is loaded with a plethora of bullet points, followed by lines of text that take me less than a minute to read through. I’m ready for the next page, but the speaker hasn’t even covered the first one or two points. Off I go into dream land. These speeches get pretty long because it’s easy to load tons of info into a power point computer program. The principle of “Less is More” is disregarded. So is the “KISS” principle (Keep It Simple Stupid!) Most of us are good listeners, for 5 or 10 minutes, then we start to lose our focus. By 15 minutes, the whole audience is off gathering wool. We ask questions at the end of the talk, often information that has been thoroughly covered when we were away in dream land, making us look stupid, but who’s fault is that?  

 Speakers who talk from the cuff, from their heads and hearts and keep it simple, are the successful communicators. If you avoid the temptation to use a teleprompter or an overloaded power point program you’ll do fine when it’s your turn at the podium. Just remember KISS.

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The Old Coot is a "short" talker - A Tioga Courier and Owego Pennysaver Article of 1/04/2023

 The Old Coot is a short talker.

By Merlin Lessler

 I was with an old coot who started to share a recent event in his life and began by saying, “In 1962, I had blah, blah, blah” That’s where I stopped him. “This is 2022; we don’t have time for a story that starts 60 years ago and works its way to the present. You’ve got three minutes to get to the point!” This is how you have to treat a “long-talker,” even though the tale probably will be fascinating, but us “short-talkers” have something we want to say too. If we don’t stop him, we’ll never get a turn. Short-talkers spit out their tales like ads on TV that cost millions of dollars per minute. We get to the point! If someone wants more than we covered, they can ask. This abrupt interruption of a long talker is the only way you get an opportunity to get your oar in the water. 

 Old guys are famous for parading out an extensive discourse, but should know better than to go on and on so long they get interrupted by a short-talker like me, asking, “Is there a point to this?” Or, by the body language from everyone else, that screams, “Enough already!” Some long-talkers don’t even notice that their audience is shrinking. People slinking off when he’s looking the other way. I say, “Sorry, have to go, I have a dentist appointment.” It seems I go to the dentist a lot.

 It’s even worse when a long-talker gets stuck on a detail that has no bearing on his ramblings, and starts talking to himself.  “It was on a Tuesday - no, it was a Thursday - no, it had to be a Wednesday because everyone kept saying it was Hump Day.” WHO CARES?  Did the guy who fell off the ladder get hurt, or not?

 This is the world of old coots I live in; you do too I suppose, just not as bad as mine. It’s worse for us old guys who are short-talkers, who keep bumping into long-talkers. I wish you luck in surviving the Long Talkers in your world. At least with long-writers you can stop reading any time you want. We’ll never know, and you won’t have to suffer. This was written in the Owego Kitchen three month ago, but got lost in my notebook. I think it was on a Monday? or a Tuesday? maybe a Friday?...........................................?

The Old Coot is an Early Bird. A Tioga Courier and Owego Pennysaver Article of December 28, 2022

 The Old Coot is out of time.

By Merlin Lessler

 Our clocks were set 20 minutes ahead when I was growing up. My mother didn’t want us to be late: for school, for church, for doctor’s appointments, for city busses, for anything. She started this time trickery at 5 minutes; when we caught, on she moved it up another five and finally ended it at twenty minutes.

 My sister and I looked at the clock and subtracted 20 minutes. A lot of families set their clock ahead, though I think our twenty minutes was at the extreme end of the spectrum. It was a be-on-time era. Punctuality was highly valued. I still have an ingrained impulse to deduct 20 minutes when I look at a clock, I have to consciously turn it off, even though it’s been 60 years since I left home. I’m still stuck with the “be-on-time” mentality. That never left me. Most of the time I’m early. It goes along with the aging process. That old adage, “The early bird gets the worm,” is a credo for old coots. 

 If you have a party that’s scheduled it for 7 pm, you can expect the old coots to show up at seven on the dot. The rest of your guests, the polite ones, arrive at 7:15 or later. That punctuality mentality and clocks set ahead worked for us when we were kids growing up. We didn’t have smart phones or smart watches. Our watches were dumb; they didn’t keep good time, especially when we forgot to wind them. We relied on house clocks set 20 minutes ahead.

 My mother’s generation wasn’t alone in her quest to control time. Today’s population does it too, using the invention of the snooze button on alarm clocks in the late 1950’s, to gain that same 20 minutes my mother was after, but for more sleep. Off goes the alarm - you hit the snooze button and get five more minutes of sleep. You do this four times in a row. Welcome to my 20 minute world! How about the time-shift sham we adopt by setting the clock an hour ahead every spring, to pretend the day is longer. It makes my mother’s paltry 20 minute shift look lame by comparison.

 My wife, Marcia, and I recently crossed the Atlantic on a cruise ship from the Mediterranean Sea to Fort Lauderdale. Every night we were told to set our clocks back an hour. It was great! We got an extra hour of sleep every single night, for five nights in a row. That was the best snooze alarm ever!

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The Old Coot saved his sight. Tioga Courier and Owego Pennysaver of 12/23/2022

 The Old Coot didn’t shoot his eye out.

By Merlin Lessler

 I didn’t shoot my eye out. Not with a BB gun anyhow. And, not in one of the many BB gun wars we waged in the cow pasture to the west of Denton Road on Binghamton’s south side. (The area is now populated with houses, but back then it was a war zone in the summer, a toboggan & ski resort in the winter). No, I did it much later in life, when a tree branch shot back into my eye on a riverbank in Owego. But that’s a story for another day. An old coot story. This is a kid story.

 My, didn’t shoot my eye out story took place after I’d paid my dues for years and finally waited expectantly, like Ralphie in A Christmas Story, to find a Daisy Red Ryder BB gun under the Christmas tree. I’d posed for dorky Christmas cards with my sister Madeline, year after year. I’d forgone my desire for a BB gun and asked for eye safe toys: footballs, sleds, board games and electric trains. But when I turned 10 in 1952, I decided it was time to launch the campaign. Woody, my friend from the next block, had access to BB rifles and BB pistols. I used him and his gun friendly parents as the centerpiece of my case. But, things looked pretty glum. My mother batted every pitch I threw her way out of the park. “Woody has one, why can’t I?” - “Because you’ll lose an eye!”  This was before the term “shoot-your-eye-out” came into vogue. You lost things in those days. Your eye. Your arm. Your life.

 “No I won’t! Woody didn’t!” She pointed out that Woody wore glasses; his eyes were protected. Something I knew all too well. Especially after so recently doing the dishes for 25 cents every night until I’d earned three dollars to pay for the pair I’d broken in one of our backyard disagreements.

 “We don’t shoot at each other. We just pretend to shoot,” I argued, lie that it was, with me sporting a tender, red-rimmed pockmark from taking one in the leg just that morning.

 “We only shoot at stuff,” I said, adding to my lie. She was too smart for that one. She was as concerned for the “stuff” as she was for my eye. She knew the stuff included dopey robins that sat still while enduring shot after shot. Squirrels that scampered back and forth making the game even more exciting. The glass window pains in Mr. Soldo’s garage, Mrs. Bowen’s tulips and the Merz’s dog. But, I had an answer for all those damaged goods. It was home made arrows that errantly misfired in a game of cowboys and Indians. “A BB gun is accurate; it would never damage stuff, ” was my weak-brained argument.

 The whole thing was of her making anyhow. She’s the one who dressed me in cowboy suits since before I could walk, who equipped me with 2 six-guns and helped me mount a wooden rocking horse in the driveway with my faithful dog Lassie at my side. How did she not see this growing into lust for a weapon that could really fire? A BB gun!

 Christmas finally came, in those waning days of Truman’s presidency. It took what seemed like years, those four weeks following Thanksgiving, when the count down started. But it came, and on Christmas morning, under our tree was a three-foot long, slender package with my name on it. I saved it for last. I unwrapped the mittens knitted by my aunt in Connecticut. And, like the other pairs she sent every year, they were too short and would leave me with red, raw wrists when I played outside in the snow and cold.

 Next came a pair of ski pajamas, the fashion rage of the day. Then, a big surprise, a radio of my own. A radio for my room, so Woody and I could listen to Sergeant Preston of the Yukon, Suspense and The Shadow in private. Finally came the long skinny box. I tore off the paper. The carton underneath didn’t say Daisy Air Rifle: it was unmarked. I didn’t care; I’d settle for an off brand. I pried open the lid and pulled out the weapon. A single shot, ping-pong ball rifle! You gave it a pump and it hurled a ping pong across the room.

 My chagrin lasted less than an hour; I found the lemonade in the lemons. I could shoot at people. I could shoot at stuff! I no longer have that eye-safe, engine of warfare from the 1950’s, but, I do have a BB gun, a Daisy Red Ryder Carbine, No. 111, Model 40. My wife, tired of my complaining, found it in an antique store and gave it to me for Christmas, the same year A Christmas Story aired and Ralphie got his. It’s a little scuffed up and the squirrels laugh out loud when I stand guard at our bird feeder, but it shoots just fine. And, I haven’t shot out my eye out! Now, if I could only get the old south side warriors together, the Almy, Burtis and Spangoletti brothers, Woody, Warren and Buzzy, for one last BB-gun battle, my story would have a perfect ending.

The old coot has good medical input. A Tioga Courier and Pennysaver article of 12-14-2022

 The Old Coot wants his Doctorate Degree!

By Merlin Lessler

 This is how I think the medical system should work: - A three -legged stool. One leg is the delivery system – doctors, nurses, PA’s, NPA’s, X-ray technicians, pharmacists and the like, trying to help us through a condition or to prevent one. The second leg is the research system – universities, pharmaceutical labs, specialized hospital centers, scientists and out of the box thinkers, coming up with how the body actually functions down to the microscopic level and developing drugs, mechanisms, diets and surgical interventions to help manage a person through a condition or to avoid one.

 The third leg, the missing one, is us, the patients. We have valuable input that never makes its way into the system. If the delivery system (doctors) asked their patients what they have done or are doing, to cope with a chronic aliment, they just might uncover a valid coping mechanism that could be passed on. For example, if they asked, “How are you managing the arthritis pain and swelling in your fingers? Have you found a way to reduce or eliminate it?” They might stumble onto a new technique. - “I cup my hands under a hot water faucet and work my fingers around for a full minute or two. The pain level goes down and flexibility improves.” That sort of intelligence might get into the system.

 Patient input could be uploaded into a computer system, gathering “home remedies” from millions of patients for a variety of conditions. Research teams and statisticians could then compile, analyze, evaluate the input and then pass it back to the delivery system. And, also produce PSA’s (public service announcement) for the media dissemination. Us old coots have a wealth of untapped, out of the box, coping strategies which we share with each other. But, we’re the only interested parties, because we know the value of hard earned coping wisdom. A huge wealth of practical medical information is contained within the entire patient base, yet it never enters the delivery system. This missing leg is a big loss to society!

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Old Coot misses the headbands. A Tioga County Courier and Owego Pennysaver article of 12-07-2022

 The Old Coot “heads” into the past.

By Merlin Lessler

 I saw a guy on the beach wearing a headband the other day. It surprised me. Jolted me! I forgot all about them. A sweatband from the past. It was like seeing a ghost. What happened to sweatbands – those semi-elastic, terrycloth loops that athletes wore. And, by athletes, I mean anyone who went outside and moved on foot, in a wheelchair, pushing a walker or a bicycle, whatever. Moved in any way at all. It was a signature fashion statement that said, “I’m an athlete!”

 If you went to marathon, there would be a sea of joggers wearing head bands. This was the era before the baseball cap took over America. Head bands ruled in the 70’s and 80’s. I had several in my jogging days: white, black, blue, tri-color. They were very effective at keeping the sweat on your forehead from running into, and burning your eyes. I guess they went the way of the earmuff, another head piece you hardly see anymore.

 You could buy headbands anyplace: sporting-goods stores, department stores, gas stations, grocery stores. It was a world of sweatbands. Now, it’s just a fashion dot in history. Discarded and buried with no funeral. Yet how did this happen? They were so useful and looked cool! It made a statement, not just a fashion statement, but a sign that the wearer moved around enough to perspire. 

 I miss them. I checked around to see if they were available in our local stores. No luck there. I’ll have to go on Amazon, something I’d rather not do, but it’s often the only place you can get things you’re looking for without running all over town, breaking out into a sweat. And, without a headband!

 Ps. – You just might spot a headband a basketball game. But, that’s about it.

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The Old Coot takes off the gloves. Published 11/30/2022

 The Old Coot says stop the madness.

By Merlin Lessler

 It’s time to take off the gloves. The latex & rubber gloves that food-handlers are forced to wear, either by their employers or local health department bureaucrats.  Unfortunately, neither party is adept at undoing wrong-headed policies that prove to be ineffective. Prohibition didn’t stop the sale of alcoholic beverages; 55mile per hour speed limits didn’t stop cars from driving 65. Making marijuana illegal didn’t stop the sale or consumption. Prohibition took 13 years to undo. The 55 mile per hour speed limit took more than two decades to undo. Mary-Jane sales have been illegal by federal regulation since 1970. (Though some states are bucking the rules.) History is ripe with examples of the turtle pace at which bureaucratic institutions move to correct failed policies. While society at large says, “What took you so long?”

 The same scenario is playing out with the overdone rubber glove mandate. I was in a PUBLIX supermarket the other day, to get a loaf of their five grain, Italian bread. (Try it; you’ll like it! But you have to be in the southern part of the country to find a Publix) There was only a single loaf on the shelf, and it wasn’t sliced. I took it over to the bakery counter and caught the eye of a woman in the back sweeping the floor. “Can you run this through the slicer,” I asked. “Sure,” she responded. “I was just tidying up while a new batch of bread is in the oven.” She reached over to a box of gloves, yanked two out, wiggled them on, picked up my loaf of bread and took it out of the plastic wrapper. “Don’t you hate putting on those stupid gloves?” I asked.  She said she hated it, had to do it many, too many, times a day. Half the time they rip, especially at the wrist when there is any resistance to getting her fingers in.

 What a dangerous world I grew up in?. NO RUBBER/LATEX gloves. Cooks, waiters, bakers handled food barehanded. It is amazing that our species didn’t come to an end. Yet, here we are now, a germophobic society, absorbing hand sanitizer chemicals and putting food handlers into gloves. For no reason!  We actually need interaction with germs, bacteria and other non-sanitized substances. It’s how the body builds its defense mechanism. We are sanitizing ourselves into health challenges. (That’s not a scientifically proven hypothesis, just common (old coot) sense.) If we lived before the hyped up glove advocates took over society I guess we can turn back the clock and survive.  (A question – What about the germs on the bread wrapper that were transferred to the baker’s gloves? Where did they go?)